After being too busy with real life to have an internet one, combined with a massive dose of writers block I thought this post well overdue.
Often really busy means either high stress, deadlines or bad time management or a combination of all three. Since most of us don’t have the luxury of a personal assistant or secretary its something we have to manage ourselves. Anyone who works for themselves, balances personal interests and hobbies with a career or occupation or simply says YES to too many things should have a think about this.
|Let me begin with: Note to Self!!|
Keeping in contact with the world when you are BUSY:
I’m the first to admit I’m TERRIBLE at replying to text messages. You know you have an issue when your friends text your partner to find out what your plans are for the evening / weekend and not you. First step to doing something about it is admitting it, and I’m really trying my best to break this habit!
Sometimes when you’ve a million things going on in your brain at once, what you want to reply to a certain message flicks through your brain. When you think back to it in five minutes time your brain tricks you into thinking you’ve responded because you did plan what you were going to say in your head but alas it never made it onto that SMS did it?!
Checking email on a smart phone device is also great but that too has it’s busy traps. Thinking “Oh glad I’ve read such-and-such an email, but I must write a proper response when I’m back on my computer/laptop/tablet…” FAIL! You planned to do it, you thought about what you were going to respond, then it got lost under everything else and suddenly its past midnight and your falling into bed thinking “CRAP – I forgot!”
Voicemail. Great if you don’t like answering restricted or private numbers, and amazing very easy to turn off!!!
Catching up with friends shouldn’t always have to be planned and booked in, but if you know you’re going to run off your feet for a week or two schedule yourself some down time, a breather, some social relaxation, a friend who can make you laugh, smile and distract you. If you are working late or travelling away a 15 minute phone call can sometimes do just the same trick.
What happens when your NOT busy?
Who here has ever thought any of the following things? I know I sure have!
“Why does no one text me??”
“OMG I don’t have any (close/real) friends!!”
“Why does no one want to hang out with me???”
Well you dummy, let me tell you! That’s because you don’t text them back when they have contacted you about hanging out! You DO have awesome and amazing friends, just stop being selfish and go do what THEY want to do rather than expecting them to come to you at your beck and call!
If you want to do something “Spontaneous” (because suddenly that meeting, photo shoot or shmancy event you wanted to go to got cancelled) then you are going to have to be a little more convincing than that! And if everyone strangely enough does have a life and are off doing things be prepared to go out and do something on your own / suck up your pride and post a desperate plea for company on Facebook and Twitter!
What can you do about it?
Are you micro-managing your life? Does your OCD need a health check, do you need to learn to delegate?
Performers, people working for them selves can have this issue, (unless you were BORN super organised). If you want something done, or to get somewhere it doesn’t happen unless you do it. No joke, its a lot of work but outside of all the work have a life is pretty nice too. Ask for help, if you’ve a big project you want to achieve it, it really doesn’t hurt to ask for advice or help. If you don’t ask you most certainly don’t get!!
Look at the big picture. Sometimes our brains are simply not achieving anything because there’s too much white noise going on. Now, don’t get me wrong—Newton was more than the average 17 th-century overachiever. He was a physicist, as well as a mathematician, astronomer, philosopher, theologian and alchemist. Today, many of us also wear countless hats—Performer, writer, photographer, model, boss’s go-to person, daughter/ son, friend, Blogger—and that’s not counting all the minutiae you don’t get credit for.
We can all pretty much agree that a little time spent away from our smartphones, work email, and Twitter pages sounds enticing. Exhilarating, even.
So if one of the greatest scientists of all time took a few breathers, let’s follow suit. We don’t want to get bopped on the head by our own proverbial apples and be too busy to see them as anything more than an imposition.
And lastly – if you’re going to be M.I.A. for a while coping with all you’ve said YES too (this should be another blog topic) then let people know so they don’t think your being a “too cool for school popular kid” to share the love or keep in touch.